"I DO WHAT I WANT!"

that statement was from a Facebook post of a girl i know. she is newly single, and says she loves it. and i'm assuming she loves it because she gets to "do what she wants". (there very well may be other reasons, and i completely acknowledge that maybe there is some deeper hurts for why she ended her relationship. so, this is not targeted at this one person.) for some reason, reading this statement broke my heart. do we ever really get to "do what we want"? is that our motivation for not being in a relationship? now, from the perspective of a Christian, doing what we want most certainly gets us into trouble. if i "did what i want", my life would be a mess. i would not be married. i would not have a job. heck, who knows what my life would be like, i may not even be a Christian.

truth time: there are many times in my short almost two years of marriage that i thought "well, if i was single, i could do that" or "i wish i didn't have to ask aaron". but let me just stop and say how utterly selfish that is. i know that God has called me to be a wife and has called me to submit to my husband. so thinking these thoughts about how i could do what i wanted if i wasn't married is just plain stupid. now, i'm not saying that those who are single can't "do what they want". God has specific plans for each of us and have us in specific life roles for the purpose of furthering His kingdom. is fulfilling God's plan of making disciples on this earth less than my earthly desires, no matter how important (to me) they might be? no matter how important i want my desires to be, they aren't more important than what Jesus has in store.